TW: stillbirth, grief, loss, second-hand trauma
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
Before my first pregnancy & infant loss doula client/family, I had only imagined how it would have been to support folks in this capacity. I knew I'd be heartbroken because a Black babe had passed. But imagining is different from experiencing it.
The loss rocks me--I'm still upset that clients loss their baby girl. I know my clients don't ask God why the loss. But I do. I wonder why they had to experience a loss like that. It bothers me.
I'm thankful to be able to support. Also thankful that I am able to take great care of my damn self. Thankful for a friend holding me accountable for seeing a grief counselor, too. (just like I recommended & will continue to recommend to my client & her hubby)
Doulas definitely need therapists. Support folks need support folks, too. Cuz second hand trauma is real.
